OK, so tell me this – why am I finding it so darn hard to find time to do something I love at the moment?
Yoga is my passion. It’s up there with chocolate for goodness sake! And yet, recently, since I moved down to London really, I’ve got out of my daily yoga habit. Very out of it.
I wonder whether it’s because it doesn’t quite feel the same when it’s not on a beautiful balcony in Italy in the evening sunshine, but actually, I was doing yoga fine before I moved out to Italy, so why not when I get back?
The thing about habits, is that that is what they are – habits. Habits are formed. Habits are created. Habits are a conscious decision….well, actually habits can be formed quite unconsciously, but they’re normally the bad ones. Continue reading →
It’s all very well when things are going great to get all giddy and excited. It’s human nature. Positivity breeds more positivity.
But what happens if you’re somewhere negative? What if you’re around negative people or what if you yourself let negativity creep in, in whatever form? If you’re wanting to move forward with your life, take that next big step, but something’s holding you back, normally, I’m sorry to say, it’s you.
Please don’t take this as a criticism, because that’s really not what it’s meant to be. It’s actually a conclusion I came to recently myself.
This weekend I’ve gone back to my childhood home in North Wales to spend the weekend with my parents. My nana has also made the journey from Liverpool at 89 and my brother came up from London on a rare weekend off.
As I sat on the train on a Friday evening, after a long and tiring week, I suddenly realised, I was going home, and that meant I became ‘daughter’, ‘sister’ and ‘granddaughter’. I was leaving my ‘girlfriend’, ‘manager’, ‘trainee counsellor’ and ‘individual’ status at Euston station.
This got me thinking, do I really change that much depending on who I’m with? Does it even matter if I do? And how does it make me feel, as a person?
So this week I was going to talk about your ability to say no to people, mainly at work, and how that actually ends up benefiting you and your boss because you’re more productive in what you do take on…and don’t go off with stress.
However, after a quick google search, I realised everyone already seemed to know this valuable piece of information – there are articles on it everywhere, and rightly so, it’s a really important thing everyone must learn at some point in their lives, but what then, was I to write about?
The answer hit me as I was busy planning my working week on Friday. Every Friday I make a plan for the following week; what I’m going to be doing each week. I’ll put in meetings, deadlines and anything else I ‘need’ to do. Then I’ll fit in what I want to do around the time I have left. Continue reading →
I was recently given a copy of Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath. For those of you who might not of heard of this book before, it’s basically a sort of personality questionnaire that focuses on finding your strengths rather than your weaknesses.
So far, I have only got half way through the book but I have completed the questionnaire and was really impressed by the ‘accuracy’ of the results.
We’ve probably all been asked at some stage in our lives, ‘What’s your biggest weakness?’ and ‘What’s your biggest strength?’. They seem to be standard interview questions that people reel out knowing full well everyone knows you’re supposed to make sure your weakness could actually be turned in to a strength, for example, ‘Oh I get so frustrated being late so I always have to be early’. Oh dear, what a terrible weakness that is.
What I’m about to say may fly in the face of what you’ve been taught, but I’m going to say it anyway. Your real biggest weakness (the one you would never say at interview) is actually your biggest strength.
Secretly love what? I hear you ask. Well, I’m so glad you asked.
This is the article I spoke about a week or so (I forget) ago – the one about secondary gains and hidden agendas. Basically, most of us, whether we like to admit it or not, at one time or another, choose to feel less confident because it protected us from something.
Are you now sat there thinking, ‘this girl’s gone nuts – who would choose to feel insecure?!’ Bear with me, it will all make sense.